BCME Diary Of A Real Bride – Dana Hajjaj – Feeling Overwhelmed
Back in August, we introduced you to our brand new BCME Diary Of Real Bride Contributor, Dana Hajjaj. Each month, Dana has been giving you, our readers, access all areas into her personal journey of planning her dream wedding, and all the ups and downs that go with it!
Dana is getting married in July 2020, (location TBC – we can’t wait to find out where!) so each month she’ll be keeping us up to date on all her exciting wedding developments via her BCME Diary Of A Real Bride features. Along the way, Dana will also share her experiences and top tips for other brides to be, which we hope will ease some of the stress, and answer some of the questions you may be facing in the lead up to your own big day.
Last month, Dana updated us on her gift registry tips and tricks. This month, Dana’s back to share her advice on how to deal with feeling overwhelmed during your engagement. Listen up BCME brides to be, there’s some great words of wisdom here…
Over to you, Dana!
You hear about it, you read about it, but nothing can quite prepare you for that overwhelming sensation you have every couple of weeks, if not every other day, in the lead up to your wedding. Some days you’ll feel all calm and collected, and other days you genuinely would rather just want to elope.
It’s not only an emotional rollercoaster you face, but you also have to deal with vendors, advice from family members, your fiancé and about a million other things, all at the same time. This is coming from someone that has been so immersed in preparing for her engagement party, that I haven’t even picked out a wedding planner yet for the day itself. (It’s got so bad I’m starting to have nightmares!) Nonetheless, amidst all the craziness, I’ve managed to keep myself sane with some simple tips and tricks. I hope these go some way to helping any other Brides to be out there who may be feeling the same way as me.
♡ Create Your Affirmations ♡
This helps drastically when you feel like you want to curl up and cry. Every morning, remind yourself of the purpose and say it out loud, or to yourself. This will help ease the built up tension you have. I go for stuff like, “I will stay focused on the positive.” “I will remember that everyone wants what is best for me.” “I trust my decisions, I trust my decisions, I trust my decisions,” “I will listen when my partner has opinions about the wedding.” You can tailor these to whatever scenario you may be encountering and I promise, with a few breaths, you’ll be feeling back to normal in no time.
♡ Your Very Own Timeline ♡
Trust me when I say, TIME WILL FLY. This can be the number one cause of stress, and also the number one thing that is overlooked because people often think ‘they have all the time in the world’. Create an online template; an excel sheet, a drawing, notes, or anything that can keep you in-check and on track. It’s very important to create a monthly to-do list and monitor how far you’re getting along. This will help evaluate how fast or how slow you’re going. Better safe than sorry!
♡ Get Realistic ♡
Unfortunately, even a celebration that you’ve spent months planning isn’t immune to the realities of life. I recently read something online that was so eye-opening, it said; ” You should consider your day a success because you’re marrying the person of your dreams, not because the ceremony and reception were executed to perfection.” Often times we lose sight of the main purpose that’s causing all this stress, and that is marriage. Keep in your heart that you’re celebrating the beautiful union of two souls joining for life, and that thought alone should be sufficient to get you through any planning/prepping hiccups.
♡ YOU Time ♡
Try to find at least an hour and a half a day (I take 4 hours) to do whatever it is that makes you happy. It could be munching on some snacks while watching a Netflix show, going for a jog, brewing some fresh coffee, or even drawing yourself a hot bubble bath. It’s important to switch your brain off from all the planning and the never-ending errands and just bask in the beauty of not over-thinking and looking at a zillion pictures and quotes.
♡ Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate ♡
Start chugging liters of water. Find a way to keep reminding yourself to drink more water. This can be through an App, sticky notes laying around, or by simply using your friends as human reminders. Water alters your mood drastically, whether you believe it or not. The more dehydrated you are, the higher your chances are of suffering with fatigue, experiencing headaches and lower energy, having shorter concentration and encountering terrible mood swings.
♡ Frustrated & Fit ♡
Compile all that anger, anxiety or stress that you are feeling, and throw it all into a good workout at the gym. I highly recommend doing yoga, just because it automatically regulates your breathing and relaxes a lot of your pressure points which by turn, makes you feel calmer and more serene.
♡ Once You’re Set, You’re Set ♡
This is a very important point, one that I even need to remind myself of every now and then just because it’s really easy to get sucked into trends and pretty pictures on any social media platform. If you haven’t chosen your theme already, do yourself a favor and minimize your search. Trust in your style, concept and vision because the more you see, the more likely you’ll be confused, and when you’re confused you become agitated. Trust your gut!
Your 2020 Bride,