Diary Of A Real Bride Abu Dhabi – My Best Friend, My Fiancé
In her last post, our diary of a real bride contributor, shared her COVID-19/quarantine routine, from fitness and facials, to volunteering and getting creative in the Kitchen. Today, things get a little deep and emotional, as she talks about the love of her life, her fiancée Hassan. Over to you Dana……
As a little girl, my days were spent planning my dream wedding, but as soon as I grew up, I realised that to have a wedding, you need to have a man, and to have a good marriage, you need to have picked the right man!
Believe me, finding “the right man” is no easy task, but having been through a lot and having read a lot online, and most importantly, taking friends/family experiences into consideration; I knew what I personally needed in a man for the long term.
The most important thing for me, was to find someone who wasn’t going to change the person that I am. I needed to be comfortable being myself, at being raw, authentic and unfiltered around that person. The second most important thing to me (and I think that this is something that no girl should ever have to sacrifice), is finding someone who listens to you thoroughly, someone that chooses to understand you, even when you don’t make sense, someone that emotionally invests in you. And lastly, I needed someone with a big heart.
I, being the Virgo that I am, am quite picky when it comes to day-to-day life decisions, I spared no time in analysing Hassan’s personality to see if we’d make a compatible match. Saying yes to Hassan was a no-brainer when he proposed, but I made that decision whole-heartedly, knowing that I wouldn’t have anyone else be my partner-in-crime, forever.
I knew how to choose, because I knew what I wanted and I put that energy out in the world. After all, what you seek is what you attract. I was also very honest with him from the get go, sometimes being upfront about your expectations and beliefs in relationships could save you a lot of heartache in the future; even if the topics are sensitive to you, the earlier you get them out of the way the better.
Words of the wise: if a man is interested in you ladies, he’ll make it known and I promise you won’t have to guess or even think about it. Don’t settle for someone that sends across mixed signals.
I feel like the best thing about Hassan and I’s relationship is our differences. Those differences bring us closer every time, there’s genuinely never a dull moment. He keeps me grounded and I keep him on his toes and that balance is just so good; refreshing if you will. I’m also slightly more feisty as a person than he is, and often at times, if not all the time, he’ll calm me down very quickly. Sometimes it’s not just about finding your equal, but finding someone that’ll compliment the personality that you are.
A tribute to Hassan
We’ve come such a long way from where we started, knowing that we are managing to pull through the difficult days, puts me at ease, because I know that you’ll always have my back when the tough gets going. I’m so lucky to have someone who knows me better than I know myself. You’re so understanding, loving, and kind; I can never give you enough credit for that. I’m forever grateful to have crossed paths with you. I love you.