At Bride Club ME, we understand that wedding planning is one of life’s most exciting yet emotionally charged experiences. Amidst the joy and anticipation, relationships can sometimes feel the strain of expectations, communication gaps, or unspoken worries. As champions of healthy, lasting partnerships, we believe that investing in emotional well-being and relationship growth is just as important as the wedding day itself.

To help shed light on the often-misunderstood world of couple therapy, we’ve partnered with Laurence Moriette, an experienced psychotherapist at BioPsychoSocial Clinic, to demystify what couple therapy really is, and what it isn’t.

Above: Laurence Moriette, Psychotherapist at BioPsychoSocial Clinic

Demystifying Couple Therapy: What It Is, Is Not, and Can Be

We have all heard of individual therapy becoming increasingly mainstream. Once seen only as a response to crisis or diagnosis, it is now widely recognised as a powerful tool for growth, resilience, and self-understanding.

But when it comes to couple therapy, many of us still hesitate. The term itself may sound intimidating or threatening, as though a last stop before a breakup.

Let’s start by clearing up some common myths:

 “We’re Not That Bad”

Do you wait until your car completely breaks down before taking it to the garage?
Relationships, too, benefit greatly from regular maintenance and check-ups.
My advice is not to wait. If there are topics or events you and your partner are avoiding, don’t wait until they explode. Sometimes, a few sessions might be enough to clarify what’s going on and learn tools to move forward. Smaller issues are far easier to address and resolve. Swept under the carpet, they don’t disappear, they accumulate and lead to resentment.

 “If Only You/They Stopped Doing or Saying X/Y, Things Would Go Better”

Blaming the other is an old habit that can be traced back to childhood: “It’s not me, it’s them.”
Blaming is an instinctive reaction when we feel hurt, but relationships are co-created, both partners contribute. Couple therapy provides a safe and regulated space to step back, understand our emotions, and discover new ways of responding to one another.

 “Talking (to a Stranger) Won’t Help”

Talking doesn’t magically erase problems, but how we talk, and how we listen, can change everything. Through better conversations, we can find understanding and closeness.

People are often embarrassed to share what’s happening in their private lives with a therapist they’ve just met, which is entirely understandable. But remember, therapy isn’t about judgment. The details are less important than the dynamics we explore. We’re all therapists, included flawed humans, doing our best.

 “The Therapist Will Tell Us Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong”

We’ve all wished for a referee to declare who’s at fault. But a therapist isn’t a judge. Their role is to help you explore your experiences of unfairness, anger, and hurt, and to learn to really listen to each other.

 “Therapists Push Their Own Agenda”

A professional therapist won’t push you to stay together or separate.
Therapy can help you clarify your individual and shared positions, offering space to repair, rebuild, or even consciously separate while honouring what’s been.

 “We’re Beyond Repair”

When one of the most important bonds in our lives feels threatened, it’s natural to feel hopeless. Relationships are complex, and few of us are ever taught how to navigate them. Think of couple therapy as a workshop: a safe space to explore, understand, and learn healthier emotional dynamics.

 “The Therapist Should Have All the Answers”

It would be lovely if there were universal solutions! In truth, therapy helps you uncover answers that suit your culture, family, and circumstances, so that they genuinely work for you.

 “I Want Therapy, But My Partner Doesn’t”

This is common. Sometimes one partner feels ready while the other hesitates. Start by expressing your needs gently and consistently. Even if only one person begins therapy, it can create a ripple effect that shifts the relationship dynamics. Small steps matter.

Key Takeaways:

• Couple therapy is an investment in your relationship’s health.
• Emotional self-regulation is essential.
• End the blame game.
• Learn to distinguish between having an emotion and expressing it.
• Remember: you’re both in the same boat, fight the destructive cycles, not each other.
• Be kind, not just right.

Final Thoughts

Couple therapy isn’t about quick fixes, blame, or judgement. It’s about carving out a safe space where two people can understand each other more deeply, strengthen their connection, and decide together what comes next.

If you’ve ever wondered whether couple therapy might help, consider it an investment in one of the most important relationships in your life. Whether you’re looking to repair, grow, or simply maintain your bond, reaching out for support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

At Bride Club ME, we believe that marriage is more than just a beautiful wedding day, it’s a lifelong partnership that deserves nurturing, compassion, and growth. We’re proud to feature expert insights like these to help couples build strong, emotionally intelligent relationships that stand the test of time.

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