Financial Stresses In Marriage & How To Make Positive Changes

Our BCME expert panel member and wealth and wellness coach, Rasheda Khatun Khan at www.rashedakhatun.com, is back, with her monthly pearls of financial wisdom, for all of you soon-to-be married couples looking towards the future. Read on to for tips on how to make positive changes when faced with financial stress and challenges.

Financial distress impacts every single area of your life. Just think about it for one second. The first thing impacted is your personal wellbeing. First you yourself get emotionally stressed because of the constant thinking, worry and anxiety. You may feel consumed and distant, even angry and frustrated or hopeless and sad. Your relationship with your spouse then gets affected because of all the tension building up. You may get irritated with each other, which causes arguments and upset. According to a recent Australian study, 84.4% of couples said that it causes problems within the marriage, creating unresolvable arguments. And sometimes even leading to marital break ups.

The next thing to get affected is your health. Financial distress is so energy consuming that it drains your body’s energy creating all sorts, from minor ailments to even life threatening diseases if the distress is there over long periods of time. It impacts your diet too. From not feeling like eating to nausea every time you eat. You are less likely to go to the gym or exercise in any way and according to kinesiology studies, there are certain areas of the body that get impacted more so than others due to financial distress – muscle tightness in the upper back, shoulders and neck – usually a lymphatic drainage is required and also constipation is quite common.

‘’Financial stress can cause your whole cardiovascular system to shut off.’’  Louise Hawkly, phD, Neuroscience Lab at the University of Chicago (That’s a heart attack by the way!)

Boys and girls do not underestimate the power of financial stress. Don’t be the victim, turn finances on its head and let it empower your life instead. Here’s how:

We have read many times that couples who plan financially together stay together and really build a deeply trusting bond. Do your goal planning sessions working together to achieve your financial dreams. Create a plan that you both relate to can contribute to. Create the habit of monthly check in’s.  This will help you stay on track making the necessary changes as you go along. Be honest with each other – remember you are a team and have the same goals and intentions. Be empathetic towards each other as talking about money might trigger different emotions in each of you.

This working together will automatically help your own state of mind and health keeping you from spiraling down the path of self-destruction. Remember life is not about money, but if you don’t get a handle on it, it will take over.

Be a smart couple and make money and finances just like an everyday conversation.

Xx Rasheda Khatun Khan xX

Author of Millionaire Mindset 6 Steps To A Wealthy Life