Marriage, Manifesting & Money | Expert Advice
Marriage, Manifesting & Money
You’ve just got married and celebrated the day of your dreams with your soul mate and all your closest friends. You specifically created the perfect day as you wanted it. What you actually did was manifest this perfect day!
I would like to share how you can take the same planning (and manifesting) throughout the rest of your life. Today we are going to talk about marriage, manifesting & money. There is a saying that goes, ‘couples that save together, stay together!’
So how do you find the balance of living with another person and manifesting money? In the video below, I interview my good friend Rasheda, who is a wealth and wellness coach based in the UAE. Rasheda says manifesting begins with acknowledging the truth of where you are at.
What is your money truth?
When you sit down with your husband to discuss your money ‘truth’ you need to say it how it is, not worse than it is, or better than it is, simply how it is. A great way to do this is via an income and expense ledger, listing the income from both of you and then all of your expenses, fixed and variable.
Where can you start to change to make a difference is in your variable spending habits, and how you do this, is by identifying your values. Do you really value going out every weekend? Or would you prefer to have more quiet weekends and then go away for long weekends?
How to identify your values and goals?
When you have identified your ultimate values that you and your partner truly share, you can action your plan. Conversations on this topic may identify values such as; adventure, security, or freedom. I recently said to my husband that I really value a holiday every year, as we both work hard, and are often away from each other.
I want to make sure we have time to relax and recharge, it doesn’t have to be an expensive holiday, it is more about the relaxing down time together with our son. So we are looking for a more inexpensive holiday which is about time rather than adventure. Your partner may say that he would like to save to get your family home paid for as soon as possible. Or you may want to travel the world together.
You may also bring up the topic of family, and discuss the number of children you want to have. Perhaps you want a large family, and private education for your kids. All of these lifestyle choices have a financial figure attached to them and by identifying them you can manifest your money plan.
How to action your money manifesting plan?
When you have all your values, desires and dreams listed down, some truths show up. You may need to get a better job and earn more money, or perhaps the dream of 6 kids may mean that you have to move to a new city or even country where education is more affordable. When getting real is your top priority ,you will make it happen, but to do so, comes with a decision and action.
I have seen many people go through this process to decide and make big life changes, and action them to really live their dreams. They double their income, buy their dream home or change their career and start a family. Manifesting your dream life with your partner has an order. And once you have identified what you want for your life and marriage, you do your research and map out your plan.
Some Big Decisions… One big decision for many couples is; will you both work when raising your children, or will one play the role as stay at home parent? Shifting income gears must also be factored in. Many of my friends have left their corporate career to become successful stay at home mums and entrepreneurs!
Snap shot: Manifesting Your Money Plan in Three Simple Steps:
1) Say it how it is – know your numbers
2) Identify what it is that you want
3) Have your plan on how to get there
Some Secrets to Manifesting Emotional Intelligence:
Look at your emotional intelligence with money. How does money feel to you? Are you grateful for the money you have in your life, your health, wealth and all your amazing friendships. Or do you feel that there isn’t enough, do you feel anger with the lack of it? The emotions (feelings) you have relating to money will manifest in your life. So feel good or reframe your thoughts around wealth!
As I mentioned in this video, when I was starting my business, I visualised myself putting cheques in the bank and then in a very short period of time, every week I found myself lining up at the bank to deposit cheques. Now I have a new vision; big fat direct debits into my bank account and Paypal account (which is even more efficient). Ha ha.
This thought process has made me think differently about my business and that’s what visualisation does to your planning. Finally, I would like to say, have fun with manifesting money and wealth in your marriage and life and watch your dreams come true!
I hope you enjoyed today’s post!
xoxo Janelle xoxo
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