Mother of the Bride {Ways To Get Her Involved In The Wedding}
Written by on March 10, 2013.
Tagged under: Mother of the Bride, Mothers day
Mother of the Bride
Mother’s Day makes all expats miss their mums – and if you are planning a wedding, you will probably be noticing her absence even more keenly. Bride Club Me knows how important it is to keep her involved in your big day, so we have compiled a list of hints and tips to keep her fresh in your mind throughout your planning…
The traditional role of the mother-of-the-bride includes helping to find the venue, compiling the guest list, serving as the main contact for RSVPs and administration, and helping the bride to choose her wedding dress. Over time, some of these roles have diminished – and as expat brides planning our big days from afar, we have to make even more of an effort to keep her in the loop.
Tip 1 – Brainstorm together
It pays to sit down with your mother early in the planning process to discuss how you would like her to be involved. If you are lucky enough to be flying home, make it fun by booking an afternoon tea or heading out in the evening for cocktails. Take your notepad and work through each area one-by-one.
Tip 2 – Involve her in the ceremony
Tradition in some cultures dictates that your father will walk you down the aisle, but that doesn’t have to be the case… If you want both your parents to walk you down the aisle, this is perfectly acceptable and makes a lovely touch.
If you’d rather stick to tradition, why not involve your mum in the ceremony in a different way? Ask her to read a passage or poem during the ceremony and to select the piece herself. This will keep her heavily involved in the planning and make what she reads feel extra special and personal.
Tip 3 – Delegate the invitations
Asking your mum to take charge of sending out the invites makes sense when you are planning from the UAE as the postal service here is so unreliable. Give her as much or as little control as you like on the design and wording – the important part is getting the invitations posted on time and collating the RSVP’s.
Tip 4 – Share ideas on outfits
Missing your mum’s opinion during dress appointments and accessory shopping? Teach her how to use the picture sharing website PinInterest so she can view your ideas and share her opinion. Start a separate board for her outfit so she can pin ideas and you can bounce your thoughts back to her. Bridal stores don’t usually allow you to take pictures of dresses until you have paid a deposit, but you can easily find images by googling the name or style number of the dress, shoes, and accessories or finding very similar styles to add to the board.
Tip 5 – Have a second hen party
Is your mum missing your hen party? If you’re heading home before your wedding, why not arrange a day or evening when she (and your female friends and relatives) can celebrate your upcoming nuptials with you. If it’s cheaper and you have money left in your wedding budget, flying her out to join you for your hen party as a last minute surprise would be an extravagant touch but one that she’d remember forever. Failing all this, ask your bridesmaids to organise a video message from your mum (or even video call if the situation allows it) so that she can feel part of the party.
Enjoy the planning – and remember, mum’s the word!
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